"Mary Haworth's Mail Bag," The Leader-Republican (Gloversville and Johnstown, NY), March 11, 1953

“Mary Hawworth’s Mail Bag.” The Leader-Republican (Gloversville and Johnstown, NY), March 11, 1953, p. 6.

A wife, “C. C.,” writes about her husband “John”:

I have legal proof that my husband is perverse, atheistic and strongly attracted to Communism, attitudes that spell death to the soul in his profession. However, I am trying to lead a Christian life, and this doesn’t include lightly putting off one’s marriage vows.

Mary Haworth responds:

Dear C.C.  Indirectly you are saying, among other things, that your husband is homosexual. . . . If such is the case, and if he is being furtively unfaithful on that basis, I should think you might have grounds, both legal and religious, for constructive separation and uncontested divorce—not only as personal redress, but also in defense of the children’s welfare.

Judging by all else you say, it seems plain that your husband is generally demoralized – helplessly lost in a maze of error.    . . . he is emotionally and spiritually sick – unable as yet to achieve healthy social integration.

Ambivalent sexuality, leaning towards overt homosexuality, usually has roost [roots?] in badly distorted filial feelings, that is, in resentful maladjustment to one’s parent of the same sex.  And oddly enough, atheistic attitudes and communist predilections (as seen in our culture) seem similarly motivated – by blind raging reactions against parental stupidity, personally experienced. Or rather against rigid authoritarian type parents, who implicitly bully and reject the child.

Hidden Quarrel With the Past
Anti-God, anti-democracy individuals seem to have in common, with remarkable consistency, a balked grudge against cruel, brutal, or blundering parts (or parent substitutes) who monstrously wounded their sensibilities in childhood.  These casualties project their private war on to the public stage in later life, as they wrestle against the idea of God, or against the familiar social order – unaware that their real adversary is their unresolved difficulty with their parents, whom they confused with God (or punitive government) at the time the early harm was done.

Re the husband, Haworth advises: “expert psychoanalysis would be necessary to reclaim him.”

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